Today is the last exam and last day of school. You can feel the calmness already at home, the monster inside me is collecting its possessions to hibernate during the summer vacation till we meet next academic year!! Thinking about how my attitude changes over the year from an extremely cool mother to an overly aggressive monster is puzzling, but I think I know the reason… unfortunately it is school.
An education system that ruins the relationship between the parent and his kid is a failed system. An education system that puts everyone on the same track, shaping his or her minds in the same way, to reach the same destination, is a failed system. We go through this education program to get a degree to go to college, maybe get a master degree, to end up working in a corporate that is owned by a multimillionaire. This is simply how a capitalism system prepares publics to work for few business owners. Recently our generation started realizing that this capitalism system is eating up our lives so they started quitting their 9 to 5 jobs to seek a more fulfilling job in their owned business.
School evaluation system is unfair so do not stress on the grade. The kids are evaluated based on the written exams and the amount of information they have studied or acquired from schoolbooks (that are also selected by the schoolmasters). Schools do not usually give regards to the excellence in arts, non-sciences, other than the academic scientific curriculum. However, there are kids who are talented in visual arts, drawing, painting, ceramics, photography, architecture, sculpture, conceptual art, music, performing arts, or digital art. Unfortunately, schools do not prepare kids for excellence in these areas. The way of teaching is uncreative, it’s only stuffing their minds with unnecessary information. Even homework doesn’t drive kids for innovation, thinking, or creativity.
If homeschooling is not an option in your country, or you are not capable of doing it, then you are stuck with school education. My advice to you is to take all the benefits you can from the school and leave out the unnecessary stuff. I mean enhance the social skills your kids that is gained from interacting with other kids, learn the fundamentals, and enjoy time for yourself. It is our role, as enlightened parents, to adapt to this system and not trap them in this track, and to teach them to have a critical mind. We should widen their experience and expose them to the greatest life experiences so that they explore their capabilities and talents and get the chance to choose what they want to pursue.
Learning happens constantly throughout days, months and years and recourses come from everywhere, so use the non-school time for your kids benefit. After school, weekends, and school breaks are all yours to do non-school activities. Do not give private lessons; they should be playing during that time. Create your own parallel education system.
- Take them on trips
Plan trips during the year, depending on the weather, not necessarily abroad, you can enjoy local cites. Go on field trips in farms and factories, musical concerts, museums, desert, parks, and libraries. Go on more extreme experience as hiking, skiing, camping, kite surfing, or even walking.
- Extracurricular activities and Summer internships
Let them work in summer from a young age, in a nursery, an office, a factory, a computer shop, elderly home, environmental camps, animals shelter or anything where they do different activities and meet new personalities and feel responsible. Help them try carpentry, gardening, landscaping, farming, drawing, painting, singing, and playing a musical instrument.
- Online and screen time
Make online time more profitable, do a good research on the educational and interactive websites. There are even games that promote creativity and innovation. Limit TV time to documentaries and selective channels on history and geography like national geographic and history channel.
Leave them enough time to discover other skills and help them figure out what they would like to do. Expand their minds as much as you can and they will find their passion someday.